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Trauma, Sexual Trauma, Freeze Responses and the Mystery of Memory

By Cheryl Burgess, Achieve Wellbeing Therapy | 17.06.2026 Trauma changes us. Whether the trauma is a single overwhelming event, childhood neglect, domestic abuse, sexual assault, coercive control, or repeated experiences of feeling unsafe, trauma can fundamentally alter how we experience ourselves, others, and the world around us. One of the most common things I hear […]

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Bereavement, Grief and Unprocessed Loss: Understanding Long-Term Grief

By Cheryl Burgess, Integrative Relational Psychotherapist and Therapeutic Counsellor, Achieve Wellbeing Therapy | 7 June 2026 If you have found your way to this page because you are grieving the loss of someone you love, I want to begin by saying that I am truly sorry for your loss. Whether your bereavement happened recently, months

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Enmeshment and Parentification: How Early Roles Shape Us in Adulthood

Enmeshment and Parentification: How Early Roles Shape Us in Adulthood and in Our Relationships By Cheryl Burgess, Integrative Relational Psychotherapist and Therapeutic Counsellor Enmeshment and parentification are experiences many people don’t have words for until adulthood, yet they often recognise the feeling instantly. A sense of being overly responsible. A lifelong habit of scanning the

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Dating in London: Attachment, Relationships and Emotional Wellbeing for Busy Professionals

Cheryl Burgess, Psychotherapist and Therapeutic Counsellor There is a distinct fatigue associated with working life in London. Beyond long hours and crowded commutes, many professionals experience an ongoing tension between ambition, responsibility, and the need for meaningful connection. By the end of the day, dating or maintaining relationships can feel less like an opportunity and

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The Power of Connection: A Transformative Approach to Parenting and Building Healthy Connection and Attachments Through Attunement

Cheryl Burgess 6.12.2024, Psychotherapist and Therapeutic Counsellor, former Foster Carer of almost 20 years. Rethinking Traditional Parenting Styles for Healthier Attachments Research highlights that a parent’s attachment style, shaped during their own childhood, significantly influences how they connect with others throughout adulthood. Attachment styles—secure, avoidant, ambivalent, or disorganized—affect interactions with partners, friends, colleagues, and children (Bartholomew &

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How the Body Keeps the Score on Trauma: Insights from Bessel van der Kolk

n a compelling video from Big Think+, acclaimed psychiatrist Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, author of the groundbreaking book “The Body Keeps the Score,” delves into the pervasive nature of trauma and its profound effects on the human body. With over 50 years of research in the field, Dr. van der Kolk offers invaluable insights

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Understanding Dissociation: Insights from Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk

Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk, a renowned psychiatrist, author, and researcher, has dedicated his career to understanding post-traumatic stress and its profound impacts on the human body and mind. His seminal work, “The Body Keeps the Score,” has become a cornerstone in trauma studies, offering deep insights into how trauma affects our bodies and brains.

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How Your Attachment Styles Affect Your Relationships

Are you curious about your attachment style and how it influences your relationships? Attachment theory, developed by psychologist John Bowlby in 1968, identifies four major attachment styles: Secure, Dismissive-Avoidant, Anxious-Preoccupied, and Disorganised. Understanding your attachment style can provide valuable insights into your romantic relationships, friendships, parenting, and overall worldview. In this article, we delve into

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Compassion Fatigue Widespread Among Foster Carers: Understanding the Impact and Finding Solutions

Compassion Fatigue Widespread Among Foster Carers: Understanding the Impact and Finding Solutions Caring for traumatised children is a deeply rewarding yet immensely challenging task. The emotional toll on foster carers, who provide a home for some of the most vulnerable children, is significant According to new research from the University of Bristol (Click Here to

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Regulate Your Nervous System for Stress & Anxiety

Bodywork: Insights from Peter Levine In a recent episode of the Ten Percent Happier podcast, Dan Harris engages with Peter A. Levine, Ph.D., the creator of Somatic Experiencing, to explore how we can regulate our nervous systems and heal trauma through the body. This enlightening conversation delves into the profound impact of somatic practices on

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