Written by Cheryl Burgess, Integrative Relational Psychotherapist and Therapeutic Counsellor | 2 June 2026 “It’s not just that they hurt me. It’s that I never thought they would.” Whether it is a partner’s infidelity, a parent’s rejection, a friend’s deception or a family member’s abuse of trust, betrayal has a unique ability to shake us […]
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Written by Cheryl Burgess, Integrative Relational Psychotherapist and Therapeutic Counsellor | 5 June 2026 “I had a good childhood, so why do I still struggle?” This is a question I hear often in my therapy room. Many people come to therapy feeling confused. They tell me they had a roof over their head, food on
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By Cheryl Burgess, Integrative Relational Psychotherapist and Therapeutic Counsellor Understanding Fear of Abandonment, Pushing People Away, and Attraction to Emotionally Unavailable Partners Relationships can bring enormous joy, comfort, intimacy, and connection. Yet for many people, relationships can also trigger fear, anxiety, confusion, and emotional pain. Some individuals find themselves repeatedly asking why they push people
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Cheryl Burgess, Psychotherapist and Therapeutic Counsellor There is a distinct fatigue associated with working life in London. Beyond long hours and crowded commutes, many professionals experience an ongoing tension between ambition, responsibility, and the need for meaningful connection. By the end of the day, dating or maintaining relationships can feel less like an opportunity and
Are you curious about your attachment style and how it influences your relationships? Attachment theory, developed by psychologist John Bowlby in 1968, identifies four major attachment styles: Secure, Dismissive-Avoidant, Anxious-Preoccupied, and Disorganised. Understanding your attachment style can provide valuable insights into your romantic relationships, friendships, parenting, and overall worldview. In this article, we delve into
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Compassion and self-acceptance are powerful tools in the journey to heal from trauma and emotional pain. Embracing these principles can transform how we perceive ourselves and our experiences, paving the way for profound healing and personal growth. Understanding Self-Compassion Self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness, concern, and understanding that you would offer to
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Childhood trauma leaves a profound and lasting imprint on both our minds and bodies, often dictating our behaviours, emotional states, and overall mental health well into adulthood. Understanding this hidden impact is crucial for healing and growth. What Is Childhood Trauma? Childhood trauma occurs when a child experiences overwhelming events or chronic stress that they
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